My Story
I have already helped hundreds of local professionals, socialites, divorcees, both men and women sharpen their behavioral and communication skills so they can find romance perfect for their lives. I have a great passion for helping others and enjoy sharing my time and advice especially if it means I can potentially change their lives forever.
Since my first memory, I can recall socializing with my sister and her girlfriends- interacting with the opposite sex was a part of my daily life, not a weekend event. I was often the source for relationship advice even at a young age for my friends, classmates, and eventually my coworkers. It seemed that others noticed my interpersonal skills and communication abilities long before I was willing to accept my abilities as a valued talent. Actually, I had not even acknowledged, let alone leveraged my ‘talent’ until I was ultimately on my own in the ‘real world’- it was then I discovered the value of being able to comfortably connect with strangers at will.
Having selected a cut throat Wall Street based career, I treated even the most stressful business and social meetings as mere opportunities to find friendship and develop trust. Needless to say, I developed a reputation as a natural connector and was often the chosen catalyst between two parties who needed to see eye-to-eye. The most rewarding part of my efforts was that I was financially rewarded for doing something 2nd nature, and being myself. It was at this point I recognized a great need in the market for hands on “relationship” and dating advice. What’s more, I realized that learning to ‘connect’ was indeed a skill that could practically be acquired with the proper guidance- it wasn’t like learning nuclear physics or psychokinesis.
My abilities to engage someone, anyone, even strangers were always very advanced- even though this is a challenge for many of my current clients, this alone does not make me qualified to give great dating and relationship advice. The real transformation came later. I have been on nearly hundreds of dates, and some blind dates, some I initiated using social media sources (Facebook and myspace) and others I arranged using an online dating website (match.com, Yahoo! Personal). I’ve experienced several relationships, and could pick up women nearly at will- in fact I almost always had a group of friends around to tail me in social scenes to learn how I was able to land so many dates. All of these social interactions only further developed my confidence and I had certainly mastered the art of conversation- one of the most necessary social skills, but I had yet to really understand how to Connect.
Years later, in fact it took me 30 years to know WHO I am- to be comfortable with all things ‘me’. At that moment, I was no longer a pick-up artist, I was genuinely 100% me- a transformation occurred. A comfort and confidence came over me and I was then, and only then, able to really Connect with women because I was emotionally and intellectually mature. I didn’t look to ‘pick-up’ women, I actually ‘attracted’ women because I exuded a natural confidence- this is the makeup of a true man, comfortable in his own skin. My persepective about dating since has completely changed. I want others to learn how to effectively connect, and part of this is connecting with oneself- and for the past five years I have been helping people become genuine connectors.
I then imagined a career where I could permanently and positively affect people’s lives by providing them necessary communication and behavioral skills they could use for life! It’s one thing to recommend a good product, but to provide someone a new skill set they can apply to a multitude of situations is invaluable, and this is what I aim to do. I want help people to Connect with themsleves and then be able to Connect with their true love.
I offer discreet one-on-one coaching in person for those who want a customized and intimate learning experience. I have visited many clients during business hours, as well as in the evenings in a social setting. For those who are economically sensitive, I offer phone sessions supported by email correspondence, and soon I will offer a video library. I am flexible and can accommodate your schedule as well as your requested needs.
Please feel free to contact me at your convenience- I have provided many ways for you to catch me, and my discreetness is guaranteed.
I hope to hear from you soon. Let’s change your love life!
My Committment
Coaching for me is a very rewarding experience- there is nothing more satisfying than committing myself to helping someone improve an aspect of their life. But it’s not like instructing, or giving commands. I work with people from different walks of life, with different life experiences, decision making processes and emotions, so I have to adjust my coaching techniques to suit their learning styles. This is my challenge, but it makes the reward even sweeter to see my clients succeed.
Much like trying to woo a soul mate is about establishing trust, an open dialogue, and a connection- coaching is much the same. I always take the time to learn as much as I can about your experiences, as well as open myself up, so that you can see the person I am- we have to work together. I take a lot of time to observe, listen and ask questions all to uncover your needs, motivations and desires, so that the solutions and techniques I prescribe are customized to your situation.
Most importantly I aim to ensure that you master the skills and competencies I teach you, so there is no future reliance or dependency upon me. I truly want you to walk away with new skill sets you can further develop on your own so they become an inseparable part of ‘you’.
In short, I am unselfishly committed to giving you the personal service you need to succeed.
